How PSYCH-K® Can Help You Transform Your Parenting Into a Joyful and Expansive Journey

Are you so familiar with the struggles of parenting that you’ve convinced yourself it is mostly hard, frustrating, and overwhelming? Yes, parenting is a rite of passage; a Hero’s Journey. It brings to the surface all of our unfinished childhood business and everything still waiting to be healed. And yes, parenting in modern times can feel isolating, counterintuitive, and, at moments, almost impossible.

When you stop and think about it, it’s rare to hear genuinely positive comments about parenting. People eventually say how worth it it is and how deeply they love their children, but not before recounting the daily challenges. My intention is to highlight that many of our parenting struggles come from the limiting perceptions and beliefs we hold about parenting itself and about children.

Pause for a moment and write down what automatically comes to mind when you think of “parenting,” “toddlers,” “children,” or “teenagers.” Most people find that the words that arise are negative or limiting. This has everything to do with our mental programming around these roles. We inherit more than our parents’ physical traits; we inherit their beliefs, their emotional patterns, and the collective programming of our culture.

PSYCH-K® works by helping you shift subconscious beliefs that shape your perceptions, emotions, and behavior. Because the subconscious drives up to 95% of our responses (especially in stressful moments), changing these underlying programs creates rapid and lasting changes in how you parent and how you experience your child.

When we use PSYCH-K® to address our parenting challenges, we literally transform the perception we hold of what it means to be a mother or a father. We shift how we see children. We move from concepts like “the terrible twos” to recognizing toddlers for who they truly are: pure, innocent beings going through a developmental phase where their will and autonomy are emerging. This inner shift moves us from battling to guiding, from frustration to greater patience and understanding, even when setting boundaries.

Working with PSYCH-K® gives us the opportunity to free ourselves from the limiting images we subconsciously hold about what a mother or father “should” look like. We get to embody a higher, more aligned version of ourselves as parents. I remember discovering one of my own subconscious beliefs: “A mother looks busy, rushed, in a bad mood, and bossy.” After doing a PSYCH-K® Balance, that belief transformed into: “A mother is gentle, loving, compassionate, and patient.”

I also shifted my subconscious perception of “toddlers” and “children,” which I realized I had been viewing as oppositional and defiant. I remember a moment when my toddler was expressing autonomy and I became triggered. As soon as I had a chance, I did a TPS (one of the protocols we have in PSYCH-K®). What was revealed was that my trigger came from interpreting his behavior (subconsciously) as disrespect. During the integration, the truth surfaced: it wasn’t about me. He was simply experiencing the emergence of his will for the first time. Instantly, my emotional state shifted. Since then, I no longer interpret his autonomy through a lens of disrespect; I see it as an expression of the self.

Another time, when feeling challenged, I realized it was difficult for me to set boundaries without feeling guilty. Through a TPS, I discovered that the “guilt” was actually a fear that he wouldn’t like me anymore (wild, right?). So I did a Balance: “It is okay for me to set boundaries with my son.” Then I noticed I didn’t know how to set boundaries in a loving way, so I did another Balance: “I set boundaries with my son in a healthy, loving, and gentle way.”

Many times when I feel frustration or impatience rising, I do a TPS and receive a revelation, thanks to being in a whole-brain state and connected with my superconscious mind, about what is truly happening and what I need instead. Even when no insight comes, the stress releases and the trigger dissolves. The beauty is that these shifts generalize to other moments connected to the same subconscious programs. I have experienced firsthand how powerfully PSYCH-K® can transform a parenting journey.

Just as these subconscious shifts transformed my own responses and emotional capacity, parents I work with often notice the same changes: more patience, more clarity, more ease, and a deeper connection to their children. When the inner programs change, your parenting changes automatically, without forcing yourself to “try harder.”

The biggest realization for me has been this: even when a situation feels “challenging,” our reactions come from our subconscious beliefs, not from the situation itself.

In the first seven years of life (especially the first three), we all learned about love, patience, impulse control, belonging, and safety. We learned this not only from our parents, but from extended family, teachers, neighbors, and the culture around us. So when our children express autonomy or counterwill, we automatically fall back on the beliefs and emotional patterns we absorbed in early childhood. Most of us were raised by parents who were stressed, impatient, emotionally unavailable, or unaware of our emotional needs.

Unlike traditional mindset work or behavioral strategies, PSYCH-K® works at the level of the subconscious where old patterns actually live. This is why change feels immediate, natural, and lasting, not like something you have to remember or force.

If this is your case, know this: you can rewire those subconscious beliefs in minutes. You can install new, expansive, healthy perceptions that transform the way you parent and the way your child experiences life and experiences you.

Leticia Salazar

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Preferred PSYCH-K® Facilitator